Laodaron

Ok. So here's the deal. I'm going to get a little personal for a second. Number 1, I'm a single guy, back in school again to get my degree in Special Education. I don't have any issue with getting women, however, several days/weeks/months in, I can't stand them. I'm confident around them, and I generally can approach any one at any time. Here's my dilemma:

I don't really want to say her name, however small the chance might be that somehow all internet rubbish gets around. Anyway, she's gorgeous, but that's not it. She's un-Godly sweet, and she has that ever so slight Kentucky twang, although she's from Illinois. A town very near mine, although I've just met her this semester. She's incredibly nice, average intelligence, but I think its all in her personality. You rarely see genuinely sweet girls anymore.

Ok, so when I get around her, my head gets light. I see fuzzies, and I can't really say anything of any importance. I understand the implications here, so say what you will.

I also still have a Myspace account I use to creep on people (shut the fuck up, I know already). By creep on people, basically check out their profiles without them being on your friends list or knowing even that you are looking. The issue is she's got a boyfriend who looks like a turd. Not a literal turd, but instead, just your typical lifts weights, but doesn't know how, so he's bulky in just his arms, with a tribal band around the arm kinda turd.

My question to anyone who cares to offer assistance is how do I get a shot at dating her? If it was to fuck, I've got a few tricks I could pull out, but that's not it. I haven't thought this about a girl in a while, but I want to date this one. I want to be around and spend time.

My friends and I compiled some decent ideas, but this forum generally has some decent lady getters, so before I approach, I thought I'd seek the advice of the professionals here as well.

Talonis

Rub one out right quick before you interact with her. It gets you thinking with the right head and clears the fluffies or whatever it is you get. (Rubbing one out™, Woogie - There's Something About Mary)

The solution is simple. The means is not. The solution is to offer her something she doesn't get from Meathead. Whether that be some kind of intellectual stimulation or a friendly ear. Identify something you have in common. I know, not much help, but you gotta start somewhere.

Or just study that dude 'Mystery', he gets all the girlies.

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Laodaron

Yeah, its not a sexual tension. Trust me. One gets rubbed out in the slightest of circumstances.

I was hoping to get some help with the means, not just the solution. I know the solution as well. My best friend laughed his ass off at me. He's engaged, so he and my oth friends use me as a vicarious lifestyle. So on the RARE occasion that I get going on a girl and mean it seriously, they all get a big kick out of it. They tell me I'll sabotage myself so meh.

Yeah, maybe Mystery is the way to go lol. But I just want this one atm. I'm a little bored with grabbing skanks at bars, I have that skill mastered.

Thelounge

Just be yourself, even if that includes being a moron, makign lame jokes, etc... Is a cliche, but trust me it has always worked for me... Don't hold back, unless of course it needs to be held back (like a racist knock knock joke etc)

GL man, and those tinglies, sound like lovvvve

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Talonis

So this is an acquaintance through school then? That would seem to be the obvious 'in' for you. Got any classes with her? Thought about the stereotypical 'study session' approach?

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Faabio

I get embarrassed just reading this thread.

Way to go Laodaron

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Lamil

First, she needs to feel the same way about you or its going to be aakwwarddd cityyyy.

So ask her about her boyfriend, show her you want to know about her life, listen to things. If she says everything's perfect well idk.. but if shes like oh it's fine don't take that as an answer she's probably lying.

And if she asks how you knew she had a boyfriend.. don't say I CREEP BITCH WHAT NOW HUH.. be like.. well I was just guessing that you had one because someone like you definitely can't be single.

Also, make friends with her friends, all the good pub never hurts. Surprise her with things, make her laugh, make her want to be around you more. Don't make it too much though to where she wants a break from you. If she asks to hang out sometime.. maybe say sorry I can't I had plans and I don't want to blow them off..

and she'll be like thats ok I understand....

And then you come back with BUT, I really do want to spend time with you, how about saturday night we can go catch a movie and I'll buy dinner for you to make it up?

BAM DATE.

you win. anyway, this is the most I've typed in a long time so story time is over. see you on myspace!!!

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Niber

Ding ding ding!

Date one of her friends. They always want what they cant get and girls are super competitive. You can work the friend until you find a hole in the boyfriends armor.

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Lamil

God, it doesn't even have to be a friend. My girlfriend now didn't realize how much she actually liked me until she saw another girl ontop of me and freaked out. That's when I knew it was lovvveee

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Niber

Hah, yeah, I just figured friend would be a bonus, then she has to listen to how great you are.

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