I need advice.

Pink Poodle · 12-13-2007, 03:08 PM

Yeah you're going to laugh at me but I need advice.

I have a female friend. She's female. And a friend. She wants a boyfriend desperately, especially since the holidays are around. Now, I have mostly male friends in college. The metalhead types.

So she asks what I've been up to in college, and I mention my friends at college, the first thing she says is "Ooooh!" and asks me if any of them are single. How the fuck would I know? I don't give two sniffs if someone's dating someone or not. But she keeps insisting that I ask them if they're taken or not, do investigations, hook her up, etc., and even give her my Facebook account password so she could flirt with them or something.

What the fuck do I tell her? She's really naive, and has a learning disability, so I don't know how to explain to her that I'm not a matchmaker, and the guys at college I've met? They're... not her type. At. All. I've tried to tell her, "I don't know, another subject please?", not verbatim of course, but I've tried. It's not working.

Plz help. :<

Auroz · 12-13-2007, 03:35 PM

I think eq2flames totally needs an advice column haha.

I actually had the same thing happen to me in high school "OMG you know so and so! OMG, tell him I'm awesome and hook us up!"

Uhhh... IDk what hooking up entails. Lying about her to get the dude to like her? Giving him pics of her?? And I knew he wouldn't like her either.

Anyway, what I did was hang out with my female friend and then ask my guy friend if he wanted to come over. So they could interact without any 'hooking up relationshipy stuff' that would make it weird.

We all hung out, and surprise, afterwords the guy told me the girl was an idiot and freaked him out. She of course didn't notice anything. She wanted his contact info. I told her he wasn't into her and if she really wanted to talk to him, she could hunt down his info on myspace and do whatever.

She did, annoyed the dude, he told her he didn't like her and it was over.

Basically... hang out with your guy friends and your girl friend at the same time, so they can interact without you giving out eachothers info or creepy matchmaking stuff. And then afterwords wash your hands of it. If anything was supposed to happen between any of them they would have gotten eachothers' info while they were hanging out. And you don't have to give out any guys info to a girl who might stalk him and send him 500 IMs a day.

If she finds one of guys' info herself, the sooner she will find out they don't like her, and she shouldn't be pissed at you because you told her so, and the guy shouldn't be pissed either because you didn't give her the info, she found it.

Tell her you tried, no guy liked her, and if she has anymore ideas she can do it all herself.

Steveaux · 12-13-2007, 03:37 PM

First Facebook is open to anyone now so no need for her to use your account.

Second tell her flat out you aren't a matchmaker and don't feel comfortable doing that.

Qayr · 12-13-2007, 04:00 PM

Steveaux has it right. No need to pretend to help or make excuses. Just flat out say you don't want to play matchmaker and you don't have to explain why.

Both · 12-13-2007, 04:00 PM

For the love of god, don't send her trolling for love on the internets.

Pink Poodle · 12-13-2007, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Auroz

(Stuff about having the girl hang out with the guys and me beforehand and the story of the crazy girl with the guy who didn't like her.)

That sounds like a good idea. Because honestly, these guys are way more interested in why Varg Vikernes is awesome than the OC and shit like that.

They wouldn't like her IMO.

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Originally Posted by Steveaux

First Facebook is open to anyone now so no need for her to use your account.

Second tell her flat out you aren't a matchmaker and don't feel comfortable doing that.

That could work, too. A non-EQ2-playing friend told me, 'Just tell her, "Look, I'm not trying to be mean or anything, so please don't take it that way, but I don't want to play matchmaker. I don't wanna try to hook you up with any of these guys. And even if I did want to hook you up with someone, it would not be these guys. Trust me."'

She does have a Facebook, but I felt uncomfortable giving out my password and the contact info of my male friends.

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Originally Posted by Qayr

Steveaux has it right. No need to pretend to help or make excuses. Just flat out say you don't want to play matchmaker and you don't have to explain why.

I'm leaning towards that, mostly. Hopefully she doesn't beg or something like that.

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Originally Posted by Both

For the love of god, don't send her trolling for love on the internets.

Indeed. It may end up badly.