Originally Posted by Bonavox

Oh dear - this thread just got a whole lot more interesting didn't it?

I was wondering in my comments would draw you out Leilana. How funny. Anyway...

1. Z and I were still very much a couple when he met you. You were not the only person he fooled around with at the time - there was one other girl named Mona Lulu who was the one I actually found out about and confronted. Z admitted to spending time with her, but also copped to being with you. I told him we were done, he begged me not to leave, promised me he would stop seeing you, and as we can clearly see that is not the case.

2. Anything I have said about you - and yes it's been catty and bitchy but then I'm a woman scorned so what do you expect? - was based on things Z has told me about you. Not other people - Z/Sands. I knew who your toon was because he told me. He also told me that Leilana was your main and that the other toon you had was an alt. He said that you and your husband go on SL to experiment sexually in your marriage by having an open relationship, and that your husband plays female toons. He also later implied that you were in an unhappy marriage. He told me about you setting up some big thing one night to tell him (Sands) you loved him. That you two hang out in the mornings. So he's talked about you quite a bit to me.

3. When I get home I can post chat logs from Tuesday night of Z talking to me in SL, asking me if I wanted to screw around, and then immediately after talking to me in MSN and saying the same thing. So yes, I'm stating the truth there. During the time he's known you and supposedly been loyal to you, he's also talked to me every day, including on the phone, frequently about subjects that are usually reserved for a couple. His intent was to just have a casual fling with you online for kicks while he and I maintained a relationship outside SL. Unfortunately I met someone else and decided I wasn't interested in remaining his girlfriend, especially after his lies about you, so he was trying to settle for having us both as fuck buddies, which again I wasn't having.

4. Yes I spent a lot of money on Z, and yes I have a child. My child is well-taken care of, healthy, happy, brilliant, and perfect. Implying I'm an unfit mom because I made poor choices over a guy that had no ill effect on my child is incorrect on your part. Z can probably tell you that though of course.

5. Yes I was an Entertainer on SWG, which meant I played a social class that gave out stat-enhancing buffs to players. It didn't mean I cybered them for money. If you had ever played the game you'd know that though.

Why am I hung up on him? Believe me honey I am trying to get away from him. He is muted in SL, blocked on MSN, and I would not have bothered with this thread had he not flown off the handle and posted it. And because he won't leave me alone. Because I respected his "relationship" with you, even though he cheated on me with you, even though he told me he would stop seeing you and lied about it. And when I was trying to pull away finally and spend time with my new guy, Z got jealous and upset because I wasn't spending time with him and went to my guy in SL, told him a bunch of lies and caused a lot of drama, all in an effort to split us up, because he thinks I am so desperate I would go back to him for it. Because until a couple days ago he wanted us to play WoW together, wanted us to make plans to go to other games together, wanted us to still have a "sexual" relationship.

He can deny it until he's blue in the face, and he can play on your sympathies all he likes (he's quite good at that), but it doesn't change the truth. As for me lying - yes I helped Z cover up some of his numerous deceptions to the community. Love makes you do dumb things like that. I admitted to it - I have no reason to cover for him anymore, and I regret the manner in which I did it.

Oh and about me "cheating" on Z. what he is referring to, and apparently STILL cannot let go of, is that when we met in SWG (in October 2005) the toon I met him on was an alt that I played for fun, and that I was not committed to. I did some fooling around, met him, started "dating", and at the same time fooled around with someone else. When Z told me after about three weeks of "dating" that he was falling in love with me, I felt badly about what was going on, told him about the other fling (which consisted of two badly done text-based cyber sessions), and told him I was going to go back to my main server. He said no, he wanted to stay together and work it out and from that point forward I was 100% faithful to him and only him. Unfortunately the same can't be the same about him as he fooled around with 1 girl in SWG, Fiona in EQ2, and now Leilana in SL. And yet my one indiscretion that occured before we had even exchanged much RL info about each other is apparently justification for all his atrocious behavior.

And Z, I'll pull up the chat log last night where you told me to sell Luxun so no - I am not stealing your toon. Nice try though.

*whew* I think that's about covered it. And I think on that note I am finally caught up on the responses here so back to work for me.

Good luck Leilana. You will sadly need it.