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Originally Posted by Karel
No wonder your fiance ditched you for a virtual cunt. You are too psycho obsessed to attract dudes who will at least cheat on you with a rl cunt~.
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Is it really psycho obsessed to flame on a message board? Let me tell you that he cheated on me because I was in the process of leaving him. He needed the distraction because he didn't want to think about how hurt he was. And I can totally understand and do not feel angry towards him as I was at fault for that.
He had offers in real life and never took them. It was my fault for pushing him away during a time I should have kept him close. He has never cheated on me in real life, nor I him. He never would. He messed up and so did I.
My flame I wrote towards Cala/Rin in no way should depict who I am as a real life person. I don't even know Cala or Rin in real life to make statements about them. I'm sure if I knew either of them I wouldn't tell them to make shit-sundaes. I don't like Calaglin as an EQ2 player, there is a HUGE difference between that and real life.
EVERYONE flames. It is a means of expression. I think it is perfectly healthy what I said, even if it was a bit obscure and far fetched.
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Originally Posted by hcre
I realize I’ve been happily married for nearly a decade and a half, but I recall learning real fast in the dating scene that if you wanted to get laid you always sided with your woman when she was pissed at someone else. This ran especially true if it was another girl she was pissed at for messing with you.
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I feel really bad for you if you feel that way. My fiance and I used to not be able to talk about anything without walking around eggshells. It got real old on him when it was always my way or the highway. I'd never go back to that. When our relationship was him always bowing down to me, we didn't have a relationship. What sort of fairness is that? Just because I am a woman does not mean he should agree with me on everything just because I am upset. How boring. After all of this happened, we became closer than anything.
As for everyone else, my fiance is the best man in the world. Even if he did make a mistake. He would do anything for me. And I would do anything for him, if that deserves us a spot in a trailer park, then I would happily live there the rest of my life if it meant being with him. Sometimes people mess up. We both did. What makes it great is the deeper connection it has brought both of us.
Let me tell you some reasons him and I should be together:
My fiance is the sexiest man I have ever met in my life. He is sexy in everything he does.
Physically - he is the most gorgeous guy I have laid my eyes on. He is stronger than any guy I have ever been with and I know he would protect me if I ever needed that, the fact he can pick me up is sexy to me as I have a lot of muscle and he can bench more than I weigh. I love play fighting with him. He doesn't go on bragging about how strong he is, but he definitely is and that's sexy to me. He is tall, I love how tall he is because I am 5'4. He is around 6'10 or somewhere close.
He is sexy in how he treats me. He gets me things when I want them, he would go out of his way to make me feel better if I was upset. He knows how to cook and I sure as hell don't, that is a huge turn on for me because I hate cooking. I clean, he cooks. It's perfect like that.
We're able to talk to each other and have deep meaningful conversations. We share our dreams, our lives.. we share everything and let me tell you our conversations aren't all about making shit-sundaes and EQ2. We agree on most world-related issues. We agree with each other on spirituality which is important to me. We also don't agree so much that we have nothing to talk about.
We are different, yet very alike in our personalities. We're able to play fight and have our own way of communicating with each other that is special for us. It's like our own silly language. When we play fight we don't care how stupid we sound, it's our time and we totally love it. So if he kiddingly tells me my breath smells like I just went outside and took a bathe in the garbage can and ate all of the garbage in it, I'd laugh and make another statement or breathe in his face really hard. We don't get mad over silly things like that. The fact you can have that kind of connection with someone is amazing to me. Not everyone does. That isn't the most important thing to me, but it definitely means we're close and anything that brings us close to each other, makes me happy.
We're competitive in a friendly way. I love that about us. We both like to win, but we wont stomp over each other to get there either. We play xbox and gamecube together and he will kick my ass at a game and then turn around after I play-pretend I'm upset, and let me kick his ass. Yah, this may all sound silly, but it's the little things about our relationship that I love dearly. Every minute I am with him, I want the day to last longer so I can have more time to be with him.
We love each other unconditionally. He would never ask me to change who I am nor would I to him. I am not the prettiest girl in the world (see my uploaded picture in my profile), but I know he would still love me if I gained 20 pounds. I know if I gained 100 lbs (not that I plan to ever, but I'm just saying.) he would still love me and let me tell you something, there aren't many guys like that around anymore. Even the REALLY ugly ones seem to expect women to fit a mold that is nearly impossible to fit. I love that I feel like I can eat a hamburger around him and he wont say "Honey, what are you doing?"
He accepts everything about me. Even my faults and never asks me to be anyone different than who I am. I, the same for him.
We both feel like we can be ourselves around each other. It really sucks being in a relationship when you feel like you have to constantly watch what you say or pee with the door closed.
He puts up with me when I am at my worst moments. I do for him also.
He brings me down to earth when I am floating in th e clouds being unrealistic.
He is my other half. I wake up in the morning and think of him, I go to bed at night thinking of him.
I want to do things for him, not because he asks, but because I genuinely care about him and want to make him happy.
He would make the best father for our one-day children and he is the guy I see myself spending the rest of my life with. I have never pictured that in full with any other man.
I love his family and they love me. I enjoy going to visit his family and going to his nieces birthdays. I enjoy Sunday's with his family playing games. I enjoy family dinners with them and even going to see a movie with his Mom occasionally. He loves my family also. We're close. It's supposed to be that way.
I wouldn't change a thing about our relationship. I love him more than any man I have ever been with and I know he feels the same way towards me, I don't question it, I don't have to. He shows me everyday with the little things he does. He wouldn't even have to tell me he loves me and I would know and the same applies for me to him.
I almost have to say that I am sort of glad how things turned out. I sure didn't sound it when I wrote this. But, if it had never happened the way it did, our relationship wouldn't be so fantastic.
I think the fact we share all of this with each other, is one reason I am so protective of him and everything relating to him. I could not imagine spending my life with anyone else.
So if you still feel the need to flame me for what I have with my fiance, go ahead. I am happy knowing that I have a relationship I am totally in love with and I can come home to at the end of the day and still know it'll be there the next day. I am happy for what I have and nothing anyone of you say, can change that.
Thank you,
Blueberrie